Library shelves with lightbulbs which cast a warm light.

Just call me Ash

Thoughts on mental health, neurodiversity, polyamory and kink

I don’t get to opt out


A little while ago I was on a very lovely first date with some really nice conversation (some really lovely messing around too, but that’s a story for another day!). During the conversation I said something along the lines of “Pretty much all my friends are queer, and I’m the odd hetero out. Some times I wish I could just become honorary queer and distance myself from all the toxic BS going on with lots of cishet men.”

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Full Disclosure


We have had this rule, ever since we started. It was mostly a result of both of us dealing with exes who would mangle the truth, hide things or flat-out lie. The rule is very simple: say what is on your mind. Or as we like to more aptly call it:

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Terminologie: cisgender en neurotypisch (Dutch)


Ik zie best veel posts langs komen de afgelopen tijd over termen als cisgender waarbij ook mensen die ik normaal gesproken best hoog heb zitten zich afvragen waar al die terminologie over gaat en waar het voor nodig is.

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On Shaming


So, there has been a lot of talk going on again on fat/fit shaming… time for me to break out my favourite technique: the analogy.

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Aboard the USS Ashford…


I’d like to take you along with me with what goes on in my head on a typical morning run.

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Her scent

Content Warning: Erotica
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The Chair

Erotica, Fiction
Content Warning: Violence, sexual content
14 min read